Friends and even family members of Kimberly Jacobs still ask her husband, Stan, if she's returned yet, after disappearing 10 months ago from their Waikiki apartment.

"They just assume she's back because they haven't heard anything," he said.

That's why Stan Jacobs has organized a gathering tomorrow to remember Kimberly's birthday at the Elks Club. He wants to remind people that she's still missing, and he hasn't given up hope.

Jacobs last saw Kimberly, 47, at about 6:15 p.m. on Aug. 21 at their apartment on Kalakaua Avenue. When he returned at 8 p.m., his wife of three years was gone.

She had been depressed for a few days, he said.

They had just returned from a trip to the Mainland to visit family and friends, including a brother she hadn't seen in 10 years. When they returned, she wasn't up to running errands such as doctors' appointments and meetings, Stan said.

When he left for a board meeting, his wife said she wasn't up to attending. She gave him a hug, said she loved him, then lay down.

Kimberly had told a Mainland friend on the phone that day that she was sad and was going to go swimming, Stan said.

She left her phone, passport, credit cards, wallet and cash at the apartment, Stan said.

A neighbor later saw her leaving the building. Witnesses reported seeing her in the ocean in front of her apartment looking dazed — and later coming out of the water with bloody knees.

A helicopter searched the water soon after Kimberly disappeared, and friends and family have since handed out thousands of fliers.

But officials have not found any successful leads, Stan said.

"The detective told me it was a 50-50 chance of finding her back in December," Jacobs said. "I don't know if he was being kind."

The case is still ongoing, said police spokeswoman Michelle Yu. The Honolulu Police Department's Missing Persons Division could not be reached for comment.

Kimberly has post-polio syndrome and walks with a limp, but her husband said, "She's the most animated, bubbly, smiley person you could ever know."

Stan acknowledges that his expectations of finding his wife aren't as high as they used to be, but he still clings to hope.

He still wears his wedding ring because of a promise he made to her the day after their wedding.

"We went swimming," he said, "and I went to take off my ring, and she said, 'What are you doing?' I said I was taking it off because I might lose it. She said, 'You won't lose it.' And then she made me promise never to take it off. I made a promise to her. I don't know if this will drag on, but I'm married to Kimberly."

Stan expects 50 to 150 people at tomorrow's gathering, where 50 homing pigeons will be released.

As the birds return, Stan hopes everyone will also picture Kimberly coming back as well.