Give thanks for the benefits of gratitude
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By Mary Kaye Ritz
Advertiser Religion & Ethics Writer
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Pele Toomata has a lot to be thankful for. "Look at me, a big Samoan guy, rough-looking. People think 'He should be a bouncer,' " he says. "But when you start talking about feeding and helping the homeless, something switches in your life. It keeps me in line, to be very thankful for what I have."
Toomata gets a special charge from being invited to churches and groups to discuss ways to help the homeless.
"I never thought I'd be that person," said Toomata, who works at Ko Olina and runs a monthly laundromat for the homeless as an additional pursuit.
We should be thankful for all the benefits of gratitude — an emotion that, oddly enough, is often entwined with generosity and compassion.
Being thankful relieves stress, helps you sleep better and promotes happiness, according to studies. You'd think we'd do it more often than once a year.
"The benefits of experiencing gratitude and practicing gratitude consciously are many," says Merton Chinen, a facilitator for the Hawai'i Forgiveness Project.
Chinen points to physical benefits, such as the slowing of heart and breathing rates, and emotional advantages: Studies show that the experience of gratitude can decrease anger and minimize depression.
Studies have also found that grateful people:
Chinen models gratitude in real ways: Besides centering himself and trying to be in the moment, which helps him get in a grateful state of mind, he talks about mentors and collaborators for whom he is eternally grateful. (Those would be Dr. Jerry Jampolsky and Fred Luskin.)
Chinen also uses a method he calls "One Day to Live." It begins by asking: If you had 24 hours to live, what would you do with them?
"Inevitably, (you'd want to) be with loved ones and thanking them," he said.