honoluluadvertiser.com

Sponsored by:

Comment, blog & share photos

Log in | Become a member
The Honolulu Advertiser
Posted on: Wednesday, November 22, 2006

Give thanks for the benefits of gratitude

What are you thankful for? Share your thoughts in our forum

By Mary Kaye Ritz
Advertiser Religion & Ethics Writer

COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS

One way to increase your happiness level is to take stock of the good things in your life:

1) Keep a “gratitude journal”: Write three to five things at least once a week. One study found that volunteers who kept such journals exercised more regularly and reported fewer aches and pains than those who kept track of hassles. (In another study, people with debilitating neuromuscular disease who kept gratitude journals found that while their physical symptoms did not improve, they did sleep better and longer.)

2) Involve the kids: Make a Thanks Tree centerpiece by writing a thankful thought on a paper leaf and hanging it from the tree branch, then planting it in a pot filled with beans.

3) Do unto others. You never feel as good about your life as when you’re helping someone else. For example, Pele Toomata’s monthly laundromat for homeless needs donations. Information: http://onebyonehawaii.org.

4) Get into a grateful state of mind: Merton Chinen suggests starting with slow, mindful breathing, then focus your mind on something positive — person, place or thing. “This simple exercise can bring you to finding peace in the moment,” he said.

5) Make a gratitude visit: Think of someone who has been important to you. Write a letter and deliver it, or better yet, read it to them.

spacer spacer

Pele Toomata has a lot to be thankful for. "Look at me, a big Samoan guy, rough-looking. People think 'He should be a bouncer,' " he says. "But when you start talking about feeding and helping the homeless, something switches in your life. It keeps me in line, to be very thankful for what I have."

Toomata gets a special charge from being invited to churches and groups to discuss ways to help the homeless.

"I never thought I'd be that person," said Toomata, who works at Ko Olina and runs a monthly laundromat for the homeless as an additional pursuit.

We should be thankful for all the benefits of gratitude — an emotion that, oddly enough, is often entwined with generosity and compassion.

Being thankful relieves stress, helps you sleep better and promotes happiness, according to studies. You'd think we'd do it more often than once a year.

"The benefits of experiencing gratitude and practicing gratitude consciously are many," says Merton Chinen, a facilitator for the Hawai'i Forgiveness Project.

Chinen points to physical benefits, such as the slowing of heart and breathing rates, and emotional advantages: Studies show that the experience of gratitude can decrease anger and minimize depression.

Studies have also found that grateful people:

  • Tend to be less materialistic and suffer less anxiety about status

  • Are more spiritually aware

  • Have higher vitality and lower stress levels

    Chinen models gratitude in real ways: Besides centering himself and trying to be in the moment, which helps him get in a grateful state of mind, he talks about mentors and collaborators for whom he is eternally grateful. (Those would be Dr. Jerry Jampolsky and Fred Luskin.)

    Chinen also uses a method he calls "One Day to Live." It begins by asking: If you had 24 hours to live, what would you do with them?

    "Inevitably, (you'd want to) be with loved ones and thanking them," he said.