DEAR ADVICE DIVA:

Recently I went with my date to a movie and, midway through, was shocked to discover the couple next to us passionately making out! And I'm not just talking about a little kissing — they were going at it like two animals. I was so embarrassed, but that's not the issue here. The real problem is that my date seemed to be really into them. He kept looking their way, and I felt that the movie (and his date!) became a distant memory. Am I wrong to feel this way? After the movie I was so upset that I asked him to take me home, claiming I had a headache.

—Not That Kind of Girl

DEAR NOT THAT KIND OF GIRL:

Sure, your date was indiscrete in gawking at the groping couple, but why you allowed yourself to get so upset is the bigger issue. It's just not worth it. It's not like they pulled him in for a three-way. And we doubt he was even aware of his fixation. Instead of seething silently, learn to speak up and take action (it's much better for your health, physical and emotional). Or, better yet, lighten up a bit. How much happier would you be right now had you whispered to your date, "Perhaps we should give them some privacy," and led him by the hand to another seat?

DEAR ADVICE DIVA:

When a woman asks you out, who should pick up the check? I always thought that the person who does the asking should treat, regardless of gender. But I guess there are some women who do not agree. One such woman I work with asked me to dinner, flirted with me during the meal, acting very aggressively, and then sat there reapplying her lipstick when the bill came. I caught on and paid it. What's your take on this?

—Bill in Miami Beach, Fla.

DEAR BILL:

Traditionally, the one extending the invitation is the one to pay, but who minds tradition these days? In this situation, your co-worker should have at least offered to split the bill; it was inconsiderate of her to not do so. So we know whom you won't be asking out, right?

The Advice Diva welcomes your questions — particularly the more amusing ones. Write to her at advicediva@miamiherald.com.